This is where I left off my attempt to "Tackle Love". Love is not easily angered. I didn't really want to focus on thinking about this. I didn't want to be tested and tried in regards to anger. I don't know that I have been tested and tried in this area, but I have a few thoughts (I'm sure you do as well).
When you love someone, I mean really love THEM, you get to know them. Getting to know someone is knowing what makes them tick, and what sets them off. It is more difficult to get angry at someone that you know these things about. It is more difficult to get angry when you know these things and love them.
The people that I am closest to are my husband and my boys. I live with these people (except my oldest son now lives on his own). We know each other pretty well. Yes there is frustration. It is easy to become frustrated with someone when they don't do their part of chores, or who are too loud when they need to be quiet. I don't have a huge amount of anger toward them because I try very hard to know each of them and their differences. What I mean by anger is red blooded hot I want to ring your neck kind of emotion. But we do have frequent frustration. We are all different and have different likes, dislikes, wants and needs. Friction can happen without sparks flying if you keep things lubed with love. I think of love as knowing the other person and respecting their boundaries and trying to meet their needs. Love is saying thank you, please, and other life-giving words. Love is having respect for preferences. Love is other focused. Anger on the other hand comes from self focus and wanting what you want, when you want it, and your way. You can't really control other people's anger, but you can control how you love. Love doesn't breed anger, nor does it let itself be angered easily.